Going through a divorce can affect sleep, which can cause tiredness, exhaustion and a lack of focus and concentration.
There’s a lot to think about during a divorce, particularly looking after children, informing your parents and dealing with their emotions, moving your home, dividing possessions, setting up bank accounts, and continuing your job.
Here Are Six Crucial Steps For Coping:
1. Accept The Reality of Your Situation:
Try to understand what went on beneath the surface. For example, if the other person suddenly has become withdrawn try to understand what led them to do that. Similarly, if you grew apart, think about how you’ve changed since you first met.
2. Manage Your Emotions:
Grief, fear, anger, resentment, doubt, regret and guilt are the most frequent emotions that are experienced during a divorce. You need to give yourself time and challenge the negative thinking patterns and self-doubts.
3. Develop Strategies For Personal Growth:
Recognize your strengths and your weaknesses, and develop an Action Plan. An action plan involves setting goals. For example, if you know you’ll struggle with loneliness, decide how you will deal with this. This will build your self-esteem and help you manage your feelings, such as missing someone.
4. Let Friends and Family Help:
Identify your support network. Think about the people who are already there for you. But also recognize that some relationships may be challenging, such as friends who will be hard to socialize with or a family member who might say: “I told you it’d never work.” Think about the relationships you want to strengthen. If you’re fairly good friends with someone you work with, see them more often. Or maybe you could renew contact with someone who has been through a divorce.
5. Deal With Money and Practical Matters:
Think about your financial and practical resources and challenges. This might include how to release some of the equity in your house, or how you can make money during the free time you now have. It may also include things as simple as learning how to use a lawnmower or the washing machine, or how to cook for children when they’re staying with you. It’s often these practical things that make people feel like they can’t cope.
6. Communicate Effectively With Your Ex:
This is another area that can cause a huge amount of stress. If you have children, learning to communicate effectively is very important. This involves trying not to get angry, managing your emotions, and entering into conversations with a clear idea of what you want to achieve without getting drawn into old arguments. You may want to consider family mediation. This helps people facing relationship breakdown sort out practical issues, such as arrangements for their children and sorting out their finances.